The Science & Process of Healing From Grief: Huberman Lab Podcast
We thought we'd share some additional resources about the topic of grief and also ask a hard reflective question:
- Q: Do you miss any of the negatives of the individual, pet or relationship you are grieving?
Unconditional love is seeing both sides +/-. We often only grieve the parts we are infatuated with, therefore placing a condition on loving half the person (+). We all want to be loved for who we are (+/-), for all our parts. When you experience this you have a profound level of appreciation, you don't forget the person, and you love them without carrying the heavy baggage and stressing the body.
Experience life beyond grief schedule a 1-1 or attend a workshop.
Love & wisdom,
Griefopedia Team
Dr. Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist at Stanford and we thought it was powerful of him to talk about the impact grief has. Enjoy this podcast.
Dr. Huberman discusses grief and the challenges of processing losses of different kinds. He explains the biological mechanisms of grief, including how neural circuits for emotional and factual memory combine with those for love and attachment, to create feelings of absence and yearning. He discusses how grief is distinct from depression, yet why they can feel so similar. He also provides science-based tools to assist with the grieving process, including how to reframe and remap the relationship with those we have lost while still maintaining a strong emotional connection to them. He also explains the importance of having and building strong foundational psychological and biological states so that we can better cope with grief when it happens. Finally, he describes tools to adjust those states, including those for accessing sleep and managing stress and emotional swings. This episode is for those suffering from grief but also for everyone, given that we all experience grief at some point in our lives.
1-on-1 Grief & Loss Consultation
Dissolve the emotional charge of the grief and loss. If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, a business, money or anything else, this consultation will help you dissolve that grief and loss you are now perceiving.
Articles
- Craving love? Enduring grief activates brain's reward center: https://bit.ly/3wSLIa1
- Catecholamine predictors of complicated grief treatment outcomes: https://bit.ly/3wU1jHw
- Emotional disclosure for whom? A study of vagal tone in bereavement: https://bit.ly/3aob9bL
- Diurnal cortisol in Complicated and Non-Complicated Grief: slope differences across the day: https://bit.ly/3t2Jvra
Griefopedia
Books
- On Death and Dying: What the Dying have to Teach Doctors, Clergy and Their Own Families: https://amzn.to/3t4oYCK
- Grief Resources Dr. Frances O’Connor’s grief questionnaires https://www.maryfrancesoconnor.com/ys...
- Complicated grief questionnaire: https://bit.ly/3LXYxFs
- Participate in Dr. Frances O’Connor’s grief studies: https://www.maryfrancesoconnor.com/re...
Timestamps
- 00:00:00 Grief & Bereavement
- 00:03:44 Eight Sleep, InsideTracker, ROKA
- 00:08:35 Grief vs. Depression, Complicated Grief
- 00:12:20 Stages of Grief, Individual Variation for Grieving 00:16:05 Grief: Lack & Motivation, Dopamine
- 00:23:15 Three Dimensions of Relationships
- 00:29:52 Tool: Remapping Relationships
- 00:37:15 Grief, Maintaining Emotional Closeness & Remapping
- 00:44:40 Memories of Loved Ones & Remapping Attachments
- 00:48:04 Yearning for Loved Ones: Memories vs. Reality, Episodic Memory
- 00:51:40 Tools: Adaptively Processing Grief, Counterfactual Thinking, Phantom Limbs
- 01:00:32 Tool: Remembering Emotional Connection & Processing Grief 01:04:03 Memories, Hippocampal Trace Cells & Feeling An Absence
- 01:10:14 Yearning & Oxytocin, Individualized Grief Cycles
- 01:18:24 Tool: Complicated Grief & Adrenaline (Epinephrine)
- 01:24:37 Sentimental Attachment to Objects
- 01:26:13 Why do Some People Grieve More Quickly? Individual Attachment Capacity
- 01:29:42 “Vagal Tone,” Heart Rate, Breathwork & Grief Recovery
- 01:42:32 Complicated Grief & Cortisol Patterns
- 01:48:50 Tool: Improving Sleep & Grieving
- 01:54:28 Tools: Grief Processing & Adaptive Recovery
- 02:03:36 Zero-Cost Support
Summary
The greatest form of love is seeing that it's never missing, that it's changing shape and form. To honour it is to see it in all its forms. Grief is holding onto the past form and putting a condition of that shape and form on it. Experience a transcendental timeless/ spaceless/chargeless love that permeates the universe. Its the most powerful form of love, because carrying the grief and pain around isn't the greatest form of love for self or others.
In love & service,
Greifopeida
1-on-1 Grief & Loss Consultation
Dissolve the emotional charge of the grief and loss. If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, a business, money or anything else, this consultation will help you dissolve that grief and loss you are now perceiving.
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